If you’ve been reading my column for awhile then you know I’m equal opportunity when it comes to dating, especially in New York City, where ethnic men are the cream of the crop. I’ve had my share of black men and asian men (read last article here) and I honestly think black men get a bad rap.
If you’ve been reading my column for awhile then you know I’m equal opportunity when it comes to dating, especially in New York City, where ethnic men are the cream of the crop. I’ve had my share of black men and asian men (read last article here ) and I honestly think black men get a bad rap. The black men I’ve actually had the pleasure of going on an actual date with have been highly educated, intelligent and high money earners, however they’re not without their male detriments. Most of them are professionals, not to say I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting or hanging with black men in clubs which reiterates my point that New York City men are pigs, race aside.
Like I stated in The White Man versus The Asian Man, I’ve had my share of dating experience; good, bad, ugly, infected (black and Asian)..you name it. I’ll address the stereotypes, truths and my own plain experiences.
Black Man Stereotypes – Criminals/drug dealers, Alpha male, uneducated, Sexual prowlers, All desire to sleep with white women, Lazy, athletic skills, large penis, angry, hustlers.
Asian Man Stereotypes – Lack confidence in talking to women, angry, small penises, smart, short, bottom of the barrel, proper, boring, well mannered, think they own Asian women.
In MY DATING New York City experience:
Black Man –
Cons: think they own all women of color, think they are king, treat women like an object, rude, feel like a number, very sensitive when it comes to respect and race
Pros: entertaining, exciting, adventurous, well dressed.
Asian Man -
Cons: lacking in confidence while talking to me, boring
Pros: Proper, respectful, focused, express their feelings on how much they like me on a date
Expect to feel like you rode a horse across the Grand Canyon for a weekend. Assless chaps anyone?
Nancy Lee
Let me elaborate:
Black Man dating experience:
I’ve been on dates with two different black men since I’ve been in New York City. Both of them I met through work related functions. Remember, I’m in the finance industry. Yeah I still have a job. Both had everything going for them, good looking, educated, charming and had money.
While, they were both professional and wined and dined me, I still felt like I was being played to some degree. To this day, I could not put my finger on it. Basically, they were juggling other professional women, me included.
In da clubs:
Black men I have met in clubs are a completely different story. I was introduced to a former NBA Basketball Player at Marquee in New York City through a mutual friend. As we shook hands to say hello, he took my hand and put it down his pants. Ya hum. Totally not joking.
Sometimes I think certain rappers have hurt the reputation of black men. It’s easy to pick up an arrogant, chauvinist, entitled persona based off successful, black men in media today. Although having Obama as President has given black men a more respectable ideal. I hope his gentlemen treatment of Michelle rubs off on these men.
Black Man bedroom experience:
Anal, anal, anal..expect them to want it right away too.. And they last forever.. expect to feel like you rode a horse across the Grand Canyon for a weekend. Assless chaps anyone? They are definitely adventurous in bed, but not similar to the white men. Expect being thrown around like a rag doll in different directions among different positions. This could also stem from a fetish, but like white men, I’m usually not with them long enough to figure it out. Please take note, that I did not mention penis size in my last column, since comparisons are very similar, but in THIS column, I must point out that the Asian man can't compete. It’s huge! Like big ass pipe huge!
Asian Men dating experience:
I’ve found that dating Asian men over the years has been slowly changing. I’ve noticed more confidence in each new Asian man I hang out with. Dating an Asian man is comforting, warm and secure.
Also, Asian men think I’m their property and that it should be a given that I will go out with them, whether or not I’m attracted to them. They are much more respectful on a date than a white man. They talk about other things besides sex. They are aggressive in their pursuit for a next date. They have a lot to offer financially.
Asian Man bedroom experience:
The "Asian small penis size" stereotype is just that, a stereotype. It’s not true as I explained above. The body hair is great, minimal.
None of these dates have led to serious relationships. I’m still single! I know what I want. I know how I want to be treated. I must come across as any easy piece of ass? Or dating men in New York City are just looking for an easy piece of ass? Dating in New York City has its own issues.
Black men are not greater than Asian Men, and Asian Men are not greater than Black men. I would definitely recommend a romp in the hay with a black man for every woman! I wanted to share my opinions as an equal opportunity, serial dater in NYC.
Feel free to crucify me below or you can always email me at nancy@asiancemagazine.com
