A question.. I like your honesty about how you feel about asian women, but my question is how will an Asian woman as myself approach a white men. My problem is I never dated any other men that was out of my race before, and I always thought I liked Asian men. Until a year ago, I found myself rejecting many Asian men from my community and finding myself attracted to white men. Problem is white men are not as aggressive as asian men. For example, there was this guy that I liked for a while, and I was sure he liked me as well because the chemistry was fierce, and I felt the desire burning between us, but it seemed like he was waiting for me to give him the signal which I kept avoiding because I am not used to taking the lead. Confused.. I am a newbie

I'm sorry dude you have a fetish and the fact. The sooner you relaize it the more liberating it is for asian people. The fact you see an 'Asian' there fore you are attracted to them shows you have a racial fetish. you can write pages and pages to excuse yourself but in the end you haven't really changed anything other then telling everyone that you have one.

I like your personal piece about how you, as a white man, are more attracted to asian women. I especially appreciate your pointing out the double standard in white men being shamed with having "yellow fever," and how asian women are "forgiven" for being attracted to white men because they have been "acculturalized "to North American beauty standards. As an asian woman who has only ever dated white men, I also want to say that from my perspective, it has never been because I think white men are better, but, because, like you, I find white men attractive. Also, in my life, I rarely meet Asian men who possess qualities I admire or find attractive in men. I have met exactly two Asian men who are confident, tall enough for me ( I'm 5'10), ambitious, intelligent, poised, culturally refined, polite and successful. I also wanted to address what "_" posted... I like "nice" guys. These guys are the ones who don't play games, who treat me politely and impress me with their manners and gentleness. Thank you for sharing your experience.